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May27
Mischief Champion
I really love the work of Katrin Hagen at Mischief Champion. Simple drawings + humor. Good shit.
February16
michigander
I’ll never be a Kansan…I’ll always be a Michigander.
I love the simplicity of these shirts from Campfire Goods.
February12
project: superior print
I love this print. We have it framed in our hallway and it’s one piece of art that I never get sick of (I never spend a lot on art because I get tired of things…).
My friend Paul is the artist and he did this print a while back and thought they’d sold out…until he just recently found a bunch in some flat files. So, you’re in luck.
Visit Paul’s site HERE.
February08
marry him?
disclaimer: I’m a book review person. I LOVE the reviews. the books, eh. I rarely get around to reading them. sue me.
Have you heard of this new book called Marry Him by Lori Gottlieb?
I was flipping through a magazine the other day and saw a review – the subtitle got me. The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. I am a sucker for these types of book reviews. Women writers who take an unpopular stand. I remember reading the NYT Book Review for Ayelet Waldman‘s book Bad Mother and being instantly intrigued because it referenced an essay she’d written for the New York Times wherein she flat out said she loves her husband more than her children. [check out Ayelet HERE on Fresh Air - she is incredibly charming. I found her essay unnerving, but I grew to love her. No matter your reaction to her Modern Love essay, I think you'll find her very interesting.]
ANYWAY.
Now Lori Gottlieb is saying, “Screw Mr. Right – Marry Mr. Good Enough.” This book was written after an article she wrote for The Atlantic, also called Marry Him! (click here) got A LOT of attention. But what does she mean? Settle for Mr. Good Enough to ensure you’ll actually get married and have kids? Gottlieb isn’t married and became a single mother on her own. Is she bitter she never found someone she wanted to marry? I think everyone bristles at the idea of marrying someone who maybe isn’t right for you – marriage is a big deal, Lori Gottlieb. THIS IS THE REST OF YOUR LIFE (or that’s the plan) WE’RE TALKING ABOUT.
What she is actually pointing out is that many women have concocted some ridiculously idiotic deal-breakers. They might pass up a person who would be a great partner because he’s too short or has a fucked up name that you can’t imagine saying every day for the rest of your life. She is saying women need to be able to recognize what matters and what doesn’t. It matters if the person is kind and it matters if you have chemistry, but it doesn’t matter if he is named Sheldon or Harry Balls. (Sheldon is her example, Harry Balls is mine. As if you couldn’t tell.)
I dated A LOT of people when I lived in Chicago. Some of my deal breakers were: must not smoke; must not sleep on futon; must not like Jimmy Buffet; must not get up early on Sundays to go running and must not wear horrible Bill Cosby sweaters. (Even though those things don’t really matter, I lucked out – Travis doesn’t smoke, sleep on a futon, like Jimmy Buffet, get up early on Sundays to go running OR wear Cosby sweaters. SCORE!) In retrospect, I was totally up my own ass. And this is where Lori is right. I think this should be required reading material for every woman under 30 who wants to get married someday.
What do you think? Do you think having high expectations for any potential life partner is smart? Realistic? Do you think waiting for Mr. Absolutely Perfect is a good plan?
p.s.
Ms. Gottlieb is featured on one of my favorite This American Life episodes. Mind Games - CLICK HERE. She’s funny and makes you want to be her friend.
